When Change Feels Uncomfortable

Have you ever noticed that whenever we make a change in how we eat, move, or take care of ourselves… opinions seem to float in?

It's something I've been thinking about a lot lately, partly because I'm shifting how I support women, and partly because maybe you've felt that kind of thing too.

And it brings up something we don't often say out loud:

People make assumptions about bodies.

You've seen it.
I've seen it.
We've all grown up around these messages, so they slip into our thinking without us even noticing.

In the wellness world especially, the bias is pretty blunt:

• Smaller body → "disciplined"

• Larger body → "let things slide"

• Non-diet approach → "must've given up"

It's outdated, but it's around us and I'd be lying if I said my own brain never whispers:

"Will people misunderstand why I'm doing this?"

Maybe they will.
Maybe they won't.
But here's what matters to me:

This shift isn't about discipline or body size.

It's about the toll that decades of diet culture take, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

All the shoulds we've collected.
All the guilt we've carried.
All the rules we've followed that never made us feel good.

And those messages show up everywhere.

I hear from women in all kinds of bodies who are exhausted from:

• constantly trying to change how they look

• judging every bite

• feeling guilty for wanting food

• tying their worth to a number

• checking every decision against a rule

I get it because I've been there too.
I'm shifting because I was exhausted and I know so many of you feel that same weight.

And shifting away from diet culture isn't easy.

It's not a quick fix or a cute mantra.
It's work.
Real work.

It's catching yourself in an old pattern and choosing something different, even when the old pattern feels familiar and safe.

It's noticing a food rule pop up and asking,
"Is this me talking… or the rule?"

It's sitting with the discomfort of eating what you want, not what fits.

It's choosing satisfaction over restriction, even when the dieting voice gets loud.

It's learning to trust your body after years of being told not to.

None of that is simple.
But it is possible and it builds slowly, in small moments, over time.

And if you ever find yourself wanting support with this, I'm here when you're ready,
no pressure, no rules, just real conversations.

Why I'm Sharing This Today

Because anytime we change direction, even toward something healthier, those old fears pop up:

"What will people think?"
"Will they judge me?"
"Will they assume the worst?"

If you've ever felt that, you're not imagining it and you're definitely not alone.

I'm right here with you.
Shifting, quietly.
One small move at a time.